Zayn previously touched on the fact that Dallas is not a bad place to plan dates – stuff to do, places to eat, etc. This is true. I am not sure what I am doing wrong with my dating life, but seeing as it is sparse at best, there must be something.
I know I am bored. Online dating bores me. I did it years back, and was very active at it too. Then things got to a point where I was just sick and tired of answering the emails. They were all the same and began running together. I was about to let my account expire when an opportunity arose – doing a tv show/infomercial (I don’t know what else to call it) for the site that I was on. I called the number. I asked the woman on the other end how many people they sent this invite to – she said “about forty.” I thought about it, and decided to do it – it was right down the road from where I lived at the time, I would get six months free added to my account, and it sounded like no big deal.
To my knowledge, this thing has never seen daylight. This fact alone pleases me to no end. I tried looking for it online (you would think that if it is related to an online dating site that it would be online… makes sense to me) and have yet to find it. Everyone makes mistakes, but it is always preferable that they are not publicly aired.
Today, I am still single, and now bored. I repsonded to one email last night, and only because it was different than the others. The guy had a sense of humor that I could play off of. Before that one, I can’t remember the last time I responed to one of the emails I am sent. I do get a lot of “winks”, and I have given a few, but lately I haven’t responded to any as none of them sparked any interest. Maybe this is not where I am supposed to meet someone. Maybe I am missing something, or I am just doing something wrong when it comes to meeting people.
That brings me to another issue – are computer nerds/dorks/geeks (I am sure many bloggers fall in here somewhere) really a different breed? I don’t feel I am lacking in social skills, but my dating life says different. I don’t bite. I have my shots (soon to be getting the yearly flu shot too). I don’t smoke and only drink occasionaly. Then, when you do meet someone, do you tell them you blog, or no? Lately, I have been going with the latter so I can blog the dates. I was doing that with the last one, but I did tell him since I was interested in him, and thought he was interested in me equally, and that things were going some where. Then got a casual email one morning, repsonded, and then nothing heard again. I didn’t write again or call as it could be assumed that if he was really interested he would not have let an email snafu stop him.
Maybe I have grown to accustomed to keeping to myself. I get emails on activities and parties but rarely go (doesn’t mean I don’t appreciate the invite). I also fear telling someone about the whole blogging thing or having them discover it. Mine is dating back over three years. I do self edit, but experience has taught me people are weird (especially you guys out there) – they will stop calling or lose interest over the smallest thing. Then again, I guess that is better early on than having something trail on six months or more, and going through the more ugly break up motions.
Then again, maybe I shouldn’t worry about it. Maybe the whole thing of something happening when you least expect it is what is going on here and I should focus on other things. Who knows.